The Difference Between Having an Urge and Giving Yourself Permission
Why an urge and the permission you give yourself are separate steps, what research on desire and thought suppression shows, and a worked example to practise.
Understand the argument that keeps bringing you back
Essays and worked examples on the thoughts, feelings and inner bargaining involved in changing unwanted habits.
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Why Wanting to Quit Does Not Mean Wanting Every Part of Quitting
Why you can want to quit a habit and still resist it: what research on ambivalence shows, a worked example, and an exercise for mapping what you’d lose.
“I Deserve This”: Examining a Thought Without Dismissing Your Needs
Why “I deserve this” is so persuasive, what research on justifications shows, and a worked CBT and REBT example for examining it without ignoring your needs.